We are NOT stupid

A couple of mornings ago I was listening to the morning news on NPR and the President's voice came on, he was talking about how last year the United States had more people graduate from college than ever before and that the children were doing better on standardized test than they have in recent years...yada yada yada.  After he stopped speaking another man came on and said that although that is true we are not competing well with other countries.

I am not going to quote too much because I won't get it right but the point was that our country as a whole is not doing well as far as education goes, which is probably true and I am definitely one to contribute to the statistics.  You name it, I've dropped it.  I went to college for 4 years, dropped out 3 times and I still don't have a degree.

First before I get into this, I want to state that college is good.  It is really good and I know that it is absolutely necessary in our society.  I love doctors, lawyers, teachers, nurses, and anything that needs lots of education.  I just think there has to be other options that don't make you feel like a loser on the way.

The system that is in place is very rigid and if you don't fit the mold than you could be considered a failure.  If you have other plans, then people question you, they question your intelligence or your work ethic.  I'd be rich if you paid me a dollar for every time I heard "when are you going back to school?"...it mostly came from people that had no interest in my life so you know what I did...I started lying to people that I didn't know.  I told them I graduated.  They would smile and go on their way and I would go on mine.  It worked out for the best. So at the end of my education experience, I became a failure AND a liar with pocket full of debt.

The problem when I was in school was that I didn't know what I wanted to do and there was not a single class that stimulated me, not a one.  I hate fluorescent lights and I like to learn in a hands on environment so obviously college was not my cup of tea. 

Once I decided that I wanted to open a coffee house it was on.  That's all I needed was a goal. Someone handing me a piece of paper at the end of a college education didn't get me excited enough to work for it but having keys to a coffeehouse did.  So on I went, I didn't care if I didn't have those keys until I was fifty!  The thing is, even though I will never have a bachelors degree,  I have opened a business and believe me, that's worth four years of education.

So the point of this post is that if college isn't for you, don't worry about it...find what is and fight your tail off for it.

That's what I like about our country.  We are a bunch of fighters not failures.  What I see currently is a bunch of people rebelling against the system and saying "I am going to do what I was created to do!"  Whether it be writing music, art, baking, leather goods, sewing, farming, sports, teaching, counseling, designing, interior decorating, flipping houses, fighting for injustice, praying, raising children, loving people, nursing, ski lessons, starting music festivals, climbing mountains, opening a business...

WHATEVER IT IS JUST ROCK IT TIL' YOUR SOCKS FALL OFF.

And if all else fails just tell people you have your degree. wink wink.

31 comments (Add your own)

1. Mike wrote:
You got it right Mallory. I know a lot of people with fancy degrees that have no passion for what they do. I dropped out too and ended up in a position that I retired from as soon as I was eligible. Fortunately, I can now afford to do what I enjoy. I'd advise anyone to do what their heart tells them is right, not someone else's opinion. You can tell the passion you guys have for Hoboken when you walk in the door. I know of very few that have that. You also have a gift for writing and I enjoy reading your posts. Thanks for writing them.

Thu, February 12, 2015 @ 1:13 PM

2. Hoboken Fan wrote:
Thanks for saying this. You're spot on. College is a really neat experience for those who are built for it. It's great for passing around ideas, learning from knowledgeable people and being exposed to new ideas and philosophies. BUT it's by no mean the only route to success, and for many people it is nothing but a frustrating distraction from what they really want to be doing. I'm a college professor at OSU, and I have two types of kids who fail my classes: The type who doesn't try hard and is lazy, and the type who, frankly, has something better to do and can't be bothered with college. I fully respect any student whose outside pursuits overcome their ability to pursue a good grade in college. Especially if the go on to run an outstanding coffee shop where I can buy a great cup of joe. Keep up the good work!

Thu, February 12, 2015 @ 2:01 PM

3. Melissa Neel wrote:
AHHH! This is so encouraging. Okay I did recently graduate with a degree, but even after obtaining that goal people expect specific things. I have goals to create documentaries. But the getting there may not sound as professional as I fluff it up to be. Heck does anything? Thanks for reminding me to work hard and be okay with a different path.

Thu, February 12, 2015 @ 2:42 PM

4. tera wrote:
You are spot on! Way to tell it like it should be taught! :)
Our little community would be missing out on you and your wonderful coffeehouse if you had let what "everyone" says dictate what are you doing today.
Miss you!

Thu, February 12, 2015 @ 3:19 PM

5. Steve wrote:
Great post Mallory! It is all about chasing your dream, whatever it may be. I do think there needs to be more focus and effort spent on math and science in schools, as well as higher standards required from students in those subjects. That is where the US really falls behind the rest of the world. Math is strong mental exercise for kids, the act of doing math helps them to be more analytical and works all parts of the brain; even if they never use it in real life, their young developing brains benefit from it.

My oldest son started college majoring in political science. After three years he changed to English. At first I thought he was crazy. When he told me why he said, " Poli Sci is a game, it is all about getting in law school. You play politics, write what the teacher wants you to write and say what he/she wants you to say, and you think like they think, because you need their recommendations to get in. In my English classes, the teachers want you to think. They encourage different points of view. They don't care what your opinion is as long as it is really yours. After all, Dad, isn't the point of coming here is to be taught how to think?" I was never prouder of my son than I was at that moment.

Fri, February 13, 2015 @ 5:49 PM

6. Janet Cowden wrote:
I am SO Glad you are my cousin. We need to talk. You get it. A cousin who gets it. What a Rare Gem. I need to come see you very soon. Could you please message me your email on FB? Thanks. You don't know what your words mean to me.

Sat, February 14, 2015 @ 1:10 AM

7. Tammy Colclasure wrote:
Well written and so true. I can relate to your story because I've been in and out of college and never finished. Yet, now I am a Systems Engineer at a 4-year state university with no college degree. It is absolutely necessary for some careers (lawyer, doctor, teacher, etc.). But there are so many careers out there that do not require a degree and very successful (any variation of your definition of success) people that are greatly educated without that piece of paper.

Wed, February 18, 2015 @ 11:40 AM

8. Maris wrote:
I totally agree, Mallory. Americans are missing the boat by having a "one size fits all" educational outlook. My husband and I are encouraging our children to look at lots of options for their future. We are hoping to equip them to be entrepreneurs. We would love to help them make a living doing what they love, using their God-given talents.

I love your spirit and your platform, Mallory. You inspire me and many others in living out what you love to do! I hope to run into you again soon!!

Wed, April 15, 2015 @ 10:15 AM

9. Gionne wrote:
I'm sitting here at my desk in Los Angeles completely disengaged in the work I'm being paid for. I'm a college graduate who landed a great job as an analyst and couldn't be more bored. For 5 years, I've dreamt of opening my own business. As of late, I've begun the process of making it happen; and I happened upon your website/blog with the most impeccable timing of my life! You have added even more fuel to my burning desire to break out on my own.

As I explore various business platforms and navigate my way through web designers, I'm constantly being barraded by thoughts of failure, mediocrity, disinterest in my product, blah blah blah. But as I navigate your site and read your story, I'm re-inspired to forge ahead! As a mom, I constantly worry that my daughter will go the college route (which is fine and all, but there are more creative and stimulating ways of being educated) and end up at a boring desk job (or worse, an office. Because when you have an office, then they really have you by the balls). Your comments on our education system echo my sentiments exactly.I'm not a fan of our education system and have started encouraging my daughter to explore other routes of gaining knowledge. I've book marked this page and will save it for when she's old enough to understand the value of your viewpoint.

So thank you for sharing your thoughts! And if I'm ever in Oklahoma, I'll thank you in person....

Cheers!

Wed, July 29, 2015 @ 5:05 PM

10. Stan Miller wrote:
Love what you said about education! Not all young people are cut out for school, as we found out with our son Matt. He struggled with college, and we always knew he was far too creative to be comfortable there..and needed to find a vocation! After supporting him financially through to years of college, heating & air training, fly fishing school, etc. Matt has finally found his passion -- barbering! He is amazing at it..and has already won an award at the Paul Mitchell Barbering School in Los Angeles! I have been a news anchor for 33 years, and I only have one year of college! Unheard of! But I wanted it with all my heart, and worked my way as an intern into a full time job with KOCO TV. From there I never looked back. What I didn't know I learned in college book stores. Life is good..and becomes great when you find God's plan for your life! Sally and I love you two and are so proud of what you've done with Hoboken! Best coffee in Oklahoma...(and I think I've tried it all!)

Sat, January 16, 2016 @ 9:20 AM

11. wrote:
Wonderful blog! Do you have any tips for aspiring writers?
I'm planning to start my own site soon but I'm a little lost on everything.
Would you propose starting with a free platform like Wordpress or go for
a paid option? There are so many options out there that I'm completely confused
.. Any ideas? Cheers!

Fri, May 3, 2019 @ 12:24 PM

12. wrote:
Hello! I understand this is sort of off-topic but I had to ask.
Does running a well-established blog such as yours take a massive amount
work? I'm completely new to running a blog however I do write in my diary
every day. I'd like to start a blog so I can easily share my personal experience and
feelings online. Please let me know if you have any
recommendations or tips for brand new aspiring blog owners.
Thankyou!

Sun, May 5, 2019 @ 4:37 PM

13. wrote:
Saved as a favorite, I really like your website!

Wed, May 8, 2019 @ 12:08 AM

14. wrote:
Hello There. I found your weblog the use of msn. That is a very neatly
written article. I will make sure to bookmark it and return to read extra of your
helpful info. Thanks for the post. I will certainly comeback.

Sun, May 12, 2019 @ 11:07 AM

15. wrote:
Hi! I know this is kind of off topic but I was wondering if you knew where I could get a captcha plugin for my comment form?
I'm using the same blog platform as yours and I'm having trouble finding one?
Thanks a lot!

Tue, May 28, 2019 @ 6:21 PM

16. wrote:
I love what you guys tend to be up too. This sort of clever work and coverage!

Keep up the wonderful works guys I've incorporated you guys to my own blogroll.

Fri, May 31, 2019 @ 8:22 PM

17. wrote:
Heya i am for the primary time here. I found this board and I find It truly useful & it helped
me out much. I hope to provide something back and aid others like you aided me.

Wed, June 5, 2019 @ 3:17 AM

18. wrote:
all the time i used to read smaller articles which also clear their motive, and that is also happening
with this article which I am reading at this time.

Wed, June 5, 2019 @ 4:48 PM

19. wrote:
Keep on writing, great job!

Mon, June 17, 2019 @ 8:53 AM

20. wrote:
I'm very pleased to discover this web site.
I wanted to thank you for ones time for this particularly wonderful read!!
I definitely liked every bit of it and I have you bookmarked to look at new
information in your website.

Mon, July 1, 2019 @ 4:13 AM

21. wrote:
If you are going for most excellent contents like myself, only pay a quick visit this web page
daily for the reason that it presents feature contents, thanks

Mon, July 15, 2019 @ 8:54 AM

22. wrote:
In fact no matter if someone doesn't understand after that its
up to other users that they will help, so here
it happens.

Fri, July 19, 2019 @ 12:49 AM

23. wrote:
Hi there Dear, are you actually visiting this website regularly, if so afterward you
will definitely obtain pleasant know-how.

Fri, July 19, 2019 @ 8:16 AM

24. wrote:
It's actually very complex in this full of activity life to listen news on TV,
thus I just use the web for that purpose, and obtain the hottest news.
natalielise pof

Tue, July 23, 2019 @ 10:23 PM

25. wrote:
It's appropriate time to make a few plans for the
long run and it's time to be happy. I've learn this put up and if I may I want to suggest you some attention-grabbing issues or advice.
Maybe you can write next articles referring to
this article. I desire to read even more things approximately it!

Thu, August 1, 2019 @ 5:27 AM

26. wrote:
I was extremely pleased to uncover this website. I need to to thank you
for your time for this fantastic read!! I definitely loved
every little bit of it and I have you saved to fav to check out new things on your website.

Tue, August 13, 2019 @ 8:58 AM

27. wrote:
Today, I went to the beach front with my kids.
I found a sea shell and gave it to my 4 year old daughter and said "You can hear the ocean if you put this to your ear." She put the shell
to her ear and screamed. There was a hermit crab inside and it pinched her ear.

She never wants to go back! LoL I know this is entirely off topic but I had
to tell someone!

Wed, August 14, 2019 @ 12:54 PM

28. wrote:
What i do not understood is in reality how you
are no longer really much more neatly-appreciated than you may be right
now. You are so intelligent. You realize thus significantly relating to this subject, produced me personally believe
it from so many varied angles. Its like men and women are not
involved until it is something to accomplish with Girl gaga!
Your own stuffs nice. All the time care for it up!

Sun, August 18, 2019 @ 9:06 AM

29. wrote:
Nice post. I learn something new and challenging on sites I stumbleupon every day.
It will always be helpful to read through content from other authors and use something
from their websites.

Mon, August 19, 2019 @ 8:14 AM

30. wrote:
If some one desires to be updated with latest technologies afterward he must be pay a quick visit this web page and be up to date everyday.

Mon, August 19, 2019 @ 9:53 PM

31. wrote:
Just desire to say your article is as amazing. The clarity on your put
up is just spectacular and that i can assume you are an expert on this subject.

Well with your permission let me to seize your feed to stay up to date with impending post.
Thank you one million and please carry on the gratifying work.

Fri, August 23, 2019 @ 5:06 PM

Add a New Comment


code
 

Comment Guidelines: No HTML is allowed. Off-topic or inappropriate comments will be edited or deleted. Thanks.